I read a blog post about "tepid praise" the other day, and it got me thinking. What's the best backhanded or lukewarm compliment you've ever gotten? Or even better--has someone ever said something that you just didn't know how to take? This kind of stuff fascinates me.
I saw a little article the other day about the octuplet mom, Nadya Suleman. I'm not gonna knock her, I think that she's got enough to deal with. But this particular comment about her just struck me as so funny (funny-odd). The article was talking about rumors that she was an exotic dancer at one point in her past. (I know--why was I reading this? I have no idea. But at least I'm owning up to it, right?) Anyway, a club owner who claims to have hired her said that she was a "plain Jane stripper". Have you ever heard that in your life? Like it's an insult, but a veiled one. Like there's a quality seal or something for exotic dancers, and to this guy, she just didn't quite cut it.
I think if my life choices had led me down that road, I'd be described in the same way! In fact, though I personally love the name Jane, calling someone a "plain Jane" anything is a bit meanish, I think. Dismissive without being outright rude. Dontcha think?
People have told us before that we're "not like most Americans". At first, I didn't know how to take that. On one hand, I knew what they meant--that we didn't fit the stereotype of the obnoxious American abroad. Overbearing, loud, etc. On the other hand, I was like, "So we're the only Americans you like? Those are my peeps!"
Another time, I posted something on my Facebook status like, "Amy has stayed up way too late watching random You Tube clips." And I got a comment from a guy we know (who's several years younger) saying, "Wow--it's good to know that doing stuff like that doesn't go away as we age." Hello! I am thirty, flirty, and thriving, thankyouverymuch! (Well--32, but still!)
My beloved husband who adores me told me a couple weeks ago, "Wow, you've got a pretty fast walk--for a pregnant woman." Which only made me walk faster, of course! I nearly sent myself into preterm labor trying to outstrip him. (Hmmm...considering one of my earlier references, maybe that is a poor word choice. But you know what I mean.)
Or has anyone ever told you they admire how you don't care what people think about you? And did you wonder if that is a nice way of saying, "you sure look like an idiot but you don't seem to mind"? No? Just me? Okay.
Either way--go on, share some of the best tepid or ambiguous compliments you've heard/received! I wanna know. And can I just say, that I'm sure you are a really nice person for someone I've never met and only know through the Internets.